Finding Balance with Rhiannon Bosse
Last year, I wrote a post about how I schedule my work week and how I get it all done as a stay at home mom of a toddler and business owner of a growing, thriving business. The response was overwhelming, and I quickly realized how many of you needed guidance for creating your own schedule and finding balance between work and life. I realized that we all want a glimpse of how others are making it work so we can better structure our own lives.
Because of this, I was inspired to start this series featuring other busy women and business owners sharing how they manage their schedules and work towards work/life balance. My hope in everything I do is that we can make our lives less busy and more intentional so that we find more room for joy. I hope that this series will inspire you in your own life and help you find just the right combination of work and play so you can make it happen too.
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your business or work.
Hi! I'm Rhi and first and foremost I'm the wife to my sweetheart of over ten years, and the mama to a very sweet 5 month old boy, Lachlan Rue. We all live in a home we built in Grand Rapids, Michigan with our rescue pup, Zoe and close to 15 of my beloved peony bushes (as a floral designer by trade those peonies bushes sure are important to me!) We love simple adventures, eating delicious and trendy food, hosting dinner parties, travelling, and making memories whether they be small or big. We're hoping to build our forever home in the next year or so and look forward to continuing to savor the good stuff in life.
On a professional note, I'm the artistic director and founder of Hey Gorgeous Events. I head an incredible team of talented professionals who selflessly love on and serve others exceptionally well. For the past six years, we have heartfully cultivated a distinct culture focused on making milestones as remarkable as they deserve to be. From full service celebration planning and creative event design, to floral artistry and execution production, our services truly marry together the back and front-end parts of your planning process to ensure no detail is missed. And so our clients can focus on marrying the love of their life.
Take us through your typical day and your main daily responsibilities.
My first responsibility everyday is to make sure our son is loved well and taken care of.
Secondly, as a woman who loves to be organized and takes pride in the home she keeps, I have housework to stay on top of. It's my responsibility to tackle things like housework (dishes, laundry, vacuuming, organizing, dusting, etc) and surprisingly the landscaping outside (weeding, planting, mulching, etc). I also take care of the secretarial duties here like sending gifts, RSVPing to parties, grocery shopping, checking and organizing the mail, making sure our schedule is outlined for the upcoming month and so forth. Thank goodness my husband is such a great cook and loves to grill as he does most of the meal prep in our home! He also manages finances for us, and fixes things that need fixing.
As for our day to day schedule. . .
I'm typically the one that gets L up from his crib each morning so I can nurse him in bed and we can start our morning off as a family. Andrew usually gets ready for work during this time so that when he is out of the shower and dressed, he can get L dressed for the day while I hop in the bath. Family breakfasts are rare in our home but iced coffee runs are not! So we will load up L and take him to day care before grabbing a quick treat at Starbucks and departing to our own jobs; Andrew to his office and me to my home studio. On any given morning I am found tending to emails, scheduling blog posts, and diving into big projects for my clients; proofing invitations, creating design proposals, reviewing floor plans.
The afternoon is also spent working and taking phone calls with vendors, brides, mothers of the bride, more vendors and sometimes colleagues. Sometimes I also use this time to run errands that are normally tricky to do with a car seat in tow. I tend to my email one last time in the afternoon in case anything time sensitive came through but I try to wrap up by 3:45 pm as this gives me time to pick L up from school (we call his daycare school because it truly is such a place of education for him!) Zoe and I walk to school to get Lachlan and then within the hour Andrew is home from work. I will sometimes wrap up some last minute work items, Andrew will feed L before a nap, and then together we will prep dinner or hang outside with the pup or other neighbors out going for a walk. From there we try to wind down for the evening, get L to bed, having some adult conversation and call it a day.
Our lives and schedule are pretty full due to the nature of my work and the travel that comes with having my business so when we are not traveling we do enjoy being at home and finding happiness in things like sitting on the porch, walking around the block, or just reading magazines in bed! Speaking of which; I love to try and hit the hay early each night as having a babe that still doesn't sleep through the night can make a work day feel admittedly pretty long. I keep telling myself this is just a season and one to be savored!
What do you wish you had more time for?
It sounds like a brag and it's not but I think I have the best of all worlds right now. What I love most about this season is soaking every single part up. To me, there is so much joy in seeing my son's face when I get him from day care. This makes going to pick him up an adventure versus viewing it as a chore. When I get early in the morning because our son has woken up crying sometimes I find myself wishing I had more time to sleep in but that early start to my day usually means I have time to put make up on and feel more like myself. I think we can use our time better if we have our priorities straight and for the most part I try to give myself lots of grace when it comes to making sure mine are right.
But simply put? I would LOVE to have a full 10 hours of sleep for just one night :) Or more time to go to the gym and not feel like I am losing time to get others things done.
What is one thing you always make time for?
A hot bath. Every night before bed.
How do you manage your schedule?
With lots of help! Healthy boundaries with my work load and clients, a school that nurtures my son during the week, a helpful and loving husband, a job I am passionate about; for me there are so many important elements that help me manage my schedule. Without just one of those noted things I feel like there would be chaos!
How do you find the balance between work and home?
We made the tough decision to put L in day care so I could focus on running my company from my home studio. And for US it's been the best decision ever. There is less pressure on me to juggle the housework, my business and being an intentional mom all day every day. Also, we selected a day care close to our home with values we respect, and they love on our son so well! Each day we get reports on what he is learning, his personal care schedule, photos of him in action and even video access to see what he is up to each day. It feels good to know he's interacting with other kids and adults and learning things I probably would never think to teach him. It also makes me work much more intentionally during the day knowing our time together after pick up needs to be as intentional as possible. Balance is different for everyone but for me it's ebbing and flowing with the season you're in.
Tell us one thing that you have learned about managing a busy life.
When your 'busy' matters, 'managing' doesn't feel like such a chore.
What is one piece of advice you would give readers about managing their own schedule?
Oh goodness. To accept help! And celebrate your victories. Give yourself GRACE. So much grace. There is so much literature out there on how to balance your life, save time, be more productive, top ten lists, tools, and resources. I could go on and on. But sometimes all you need to do is put your head down, work hard, love hard, and know that's enough. We overthink the process of living our lives instead of just doing it some days. I'm here to tell you you're doing just fine!
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If you are interested in contributing to this series, or know of someone you would like to see featured, send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org and let me know!