Somewhere along the way, my business became a full-time gig. It was always supposed to be something I did when I had time, but when things grew quickly, I found myself managing it as a full-time business. I consider myself extremely blessed to have the success that I’ve had, but at the same time I know my focus needs to be with my kids first. I love being an entrepreneur and although it's not something I saw coming in my life, I couldn't imagine my life without it. I also love being a mama and always knew this was a natural role for me. But balancing the two isn't always easy and I know I'm not alone in the struggles I face as a mamapreneur with little ones. But in this season of life, there are a few things we can remember to get us through the tough days.
You are a mama first
I’ve been a business owner for 5 years. I’ve been a mama for 3. Even though my business was my first baby, I am a mama first and a business owner second. In this season of life when my kids are little, I know that they need me. I stay home with my 2 kids all day. Most days you’ll find me on the floor with my kids, at the park pushing swings, and in the kitchen making meals (who knew two little ones could eat so much!) It’s not the “picture perfect” scene of sipping coffee at a desk with design work on my screen all day. With no regular childcare, I'm left to do most of my work early in the morning or late at night. I manage to get some things done during nap time, but when one of my little needs me, I try to be there for them. After all, that is the main reason I stay home with them. That may mean slower growth for my business, but over time it won’t really matter. Doing the best you can each day is all you need to do.
It will be hard
Being a mama and a business owner is no easy task. Each one of those jobs alone is an accomplishment in itself. Put them together and it can be hard. The best thing I constantly remind myself of is to embrace your season. You might not be working 9-5 every day or even during the day. You might have to work in smaller segments of time and even on weekends. While I am a big believer in boundaries, I also realize that sometimes I have to work on nights and weekends. I try hard to work efficiently and effectively but sometimes things just don't get done and you have to work extra. When you're tailoring your time to kids, you have to be flexible. The most important thing to remember is that even though there are hard days, it won’t be like this forever. Like every other season, this too shall pass, so enjoy it while you can.
Balance is achievable
Balancing work and life will be an ongoing, ever changing thing. But it can happen. You can have balance between your business and your life. It will just look different for you than for everyone else, and may even be different day to day. Balance doesn’t mean you are always split 50:50 down the middle between your work and your life. Sometimes you lean more towards one than the other. And in this season of being a mamapreneur with little ones, I often lean more towards life. You don’t have to do it all, all the time. It’s ok to focus more on your life in this season. For me, I balance this by scheduling only projects that I know I have time for and only things that I am truly passionate about. I have little time to work, so when I do, I want to fill that time with things that I enjoy. I have had to say no to a lot of things. I’ve had to pass up on things that I know would help grow my business. I’ve had to turn down clients and in turn profits. But the reality is that I don’t have time to do more right now.
Life for me lately is a beautiful mix of playing on the floor with my little ones and developing intentional lives and businesses with others. You can do life and business as a mama and do them both well. It’s a matter of figuring out what works for you and embracing this season wholeheartedly.